Loneliness can sometimes plague single moms. Also, single parenting comes with a unique set of challenges that only other single parents understand. That is why finding a single mom community is so important. Luckily, I found a single mom community in Guanajuato City, Mexico.
Novella was only 3 months old when I discovered my husband was having an affair. I was shattered, devastated beyond belief, and lost. I sat in my big house full of meaningless stuff and through the tears, tried to figure out what the hell I was supposed to do now.
With bills piling up, I knew I couldn’t spend one more night in our house. It was too painful. It was a huge risk considering our house was not sold yet but the thought of spending one more night in the only home my husband and I had ever owned together was too much to bear. I needed support, familiarity, and a fresh start. In less than a week, the girls and I moved out of our 2600 sqft home into an 800 sq ft condo back in our old neighborhood. It was a huge relief. The girls were back in their old school, back by our good friends, and for a short time, things were looking up.
In the aftermath of everything, I struggled to pull myself out of bed each and every day. Getting the girls to school on time was a struggle because depression crippled me. Financially, I was drowning trying to keep up with my huge mortgage bill on my own and my new monthly rent.
The girls struggled with losing a brother and sister overnight, switching schools in the middle of the year, and changing homes. Mia’s teacher mentioned the possibility of needing to hold her back a year if she couldn’t pass the end of year STAAR test. I knew my girls just needed time to heal but that didn’t matter to the school system.
For Alaya’s birthday, we decided to go to Great Wolf Lodge. It was a lot cheaper to go during the week than it was to go during the weekend so I pulled the girls out of school and we went on a road trip. It was so much fun and much more affordable during the week. We couldn’t wait to travel again but we put it on hold so the girls wouldn’t miss more school days.
Mia struggled with sickness since we moved into the condo. I took her to the doctor repeatedly but they couldn’t figure out what was wrong with her. She just felt sick and both girls suffered from headaches. Valentine’s day was coming up and I found myself searching for places on Airbnb. Out of nowhere, I hit booked and booked us a yurt near the beach in Port Aransas. Once again, it was an absolutely amazing experience. You can book this Airbnb through this link.
Something about traveling was freeing. There is something about not waking up to an alarm, not worrying about a cheating husband, and not worrying about homework was freeing. Yet, after returning home from this latest adventure, the girls went back to school, and I went back to my bed struggling to get through each day once again. This went on for another week before I decided enough was enough. I picked the girls up from school and asked them how they would feel about being homeschooled so we could travel full-time. Alaya was ecstatic. Mia hesitated for a bit but both agreed with my crazy plan. In less than a month, we sold and donated most of our possessions and ended our lease on our condo. It was a huge leap of faith.
Finding A Single Mom Community
We spent an amazing year traveling to 12 states and 3 countries before falling in love with Mexico and deciding to make it our home base. This was a game changer for the girls and me!
Finally, we’d found a community we fit in.
Finally, we could start truly healing.
Finally, we felt “home”.
No longer does daily stress I felt while trying to conform to what I was told my life should look like is non-existent. The girls and I no longer live by any schedule, and I am able to be a more present mom. Finding a single mom community to help support was a lifesaver. I got sick the first week in Guanajuato City, Mexico, and these mommas took care of the girls and I. At that point, they had only known me for two days!
Even though we are leaving this community to travel some more, we have gained lifelong friendships.
I know now that I need to reach out to others before our new destination and make connections. It is so important to have a community no matter what country you are in especially for single moms.